• I see you! I am you! – Six Tips on how I am Overcoming Postpartum Depression By Tyler Johnson

    I feel strongly about creating awareness about postpartum depression, but I knew that it was not a story I could tell. I knew it was only right to reach out to mommy/lifestyle blogger Tyler E. Johnson, the creator of The Bonafide Moms Spot. Mrs. Johnson has been very open about postpartum on her blog, and I’m so thankful that she would share her tips of overcoming postpartum depression with us! 

    Please note:  Mrs. Johnson and I are not Doctors. Mrs Johnson seeked professional help. If you or someone you know is struggling with postpartum depression, please seek professional help.

    The following are tips that helped Mrs. Johnson overcome postpartum depression.

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    “It’s not that big of a deal.”, “why are you so emotional?”, “you just had a baby your hormones are off.” These are just a few of the comments I would hear daily while battling postpartum depression. Postpartum depression is a fight that many will not understand, and few will try to understand.

    I was officially diagnosed with postpartum depression during my six-week postpartum/post-op check up with my OBGYN. Two weeks prior I explained to her I was not feeling like myself and I was overly disappointed with life. She listened, comforted as best she could, then immediately constructed a plan to get me in with a psychiatrist ASAP. I cannot stress enough how important it is for us new and seasoned mothers to get the necessary help when we feel things are not right with self. It’s okay to not be okay. I chose to acknowledge the signs rather than let them sort themselves out (honestly they never do if you don’t take the necessary steps). However, today I am happy to report that I am in recovery and I have gained overflowing strength, confidence, joy, and love from this journey! It took a lot on talking it out and soul searching to get to where I am today. Here being just are six ways (the list is way long but I’d be typing forever if I tried to include them all) that I discovered this road to recovery.

    1. Acknowledge:

    – If you know or even feel like you’re not being your true self mentally, emotionally, and physically do not ignore the signs. It is beyond important to acknowledge and understand the thoughts, emotions, and energy you are experiencing. I truly believe the moment I made myself aware of what was happening to me, and for me I immediately snatched away the power from those feelings and negative thoughts. Sometimes you have to say “look! I see what your attempting to do and you will never prosper.” Snatch the power back your stronger then you realize.

    2. Identify:

    – My psychiatrist shared with me that everything has a root(s) and identifying the root(s) sometimes is extremely helpful in recovery. Here’s an example; for me one of my roots or as I like to call them “triggers” is my environment. I realized being in environments that caused stress, held unwanted opinions, and were spaces that had no isolation escape caused me to have more “emotional episodes” then I could handle. So, I made the necessary changes to always be in places or spaces I knew would bring me nothing but joy and a peace of mind. Figure out what may agitate you then take the necessary actions to change it, them, those, or that.

    3. Get personal with self:

    – Most of us say “I know who I am and I know what I want.” The question is do you really? I know I didn’t know myself as well as I thought I did until I had to make the decision to fight or flight. Choosing to fight made me realize that not being InTouch with all aspects of me set me up to be vulnerable. Why? Well getting to know every little detail about yourself you’ll then know the best avenues to take in handling certain situations resulting in wins because your staying true to self and protecting who you are.

    4. Allow change to happen:

    – Glow through change rather go through change. Never let change intimidate you. Embrace all the changes you experience. Change is put in place to make you better. Accept it with an open and willing heart and mind. I became so comfortable with keeping myself boxed in. However, once I let all that I thought I was and could do out the window new life began to pour in. Never in a million years did I ever think I’d become a writer but I accepted the change and direction God was sending me and look at me now being happy, creative, and living.

    5. Find your thing:

    – Figuring out an activity that you like is not only fun but also therapeutic. The day I wrote my first blog to try it out was they day I found an outlet that brought me joy, satisfaction and release. There are so many things you can be good at that you don’t even know until you get personal with yourself and are open to change. Try things like painting, writing, singing, exercising, dancing, and the list goes on. Enjoy life it’s too short to allow ourselves to stay trapped in our thoughts.

    6. Pray:
    – Finally, and far from least PRAY. Pray like your life depends on it because it does. Every chance you get PRAY. Whenever you feel yourself slipping away PRAY. Feeling in a bad mood PRAY. The power of prayer is phenomenal and can move mountains. I have prayed more within the last six months then I ever have in my entire life. When I say, I have attained a true peace I mean it. I live by prayer because it works. You can pray anywhere to yourself, aloud, in the tub, in the car wherever. There is no right or wrong place or time. In all honesty praying before, after, and during each of these tips listed will have you seeing life through a different light. If you do nothing else Pray.

    What you are feeling is temporary the only way it will last forever is if you allow it. Pick yourself up your worth more than the finest jewel to ever exist. Live, love, be happy, and believe that you are a survivor. Understand that despite the feelings of not being understood there is a whole community of us mommies who have glowed through and grown through the same exact journey. You’re not alone your never alone. I hope these quick tips truly help you sort the madness through love, peace, joy, and overflowing blessings.

    By Tyler E Johnson

    The Bonafide Moms Spot

    Tyler IG: @Tylerbeth_J

    https://thebonafidemomsspot.wordpress.com

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    Mrs. Johnson ability to look deep within herself regarding her postpartum depression is a reality that is not often shared. Her willingness to look deep within her soul in order to heal is something many struggle to do.

    Thank you Tyler for sharing your story. Thank you Tyler for being strong. Thank you Tyler for your willingness to discover the steps one must take to overcome postpartum depression. Your perseverance not only made it possible for you to get to a place of recovery, but will help many others get on the right path to recovery.

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    The journey to success will always and forever be the best part, so enjoy the road your on and never give up on yourself!

    XO SHANTAL

    I hope that sharing my experiences and sharing your experiences that we both grow to reach our full potential!

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  • True Life: I’m a Mom of Two

    This week my son turns three years old and my daughter will be one month old. And let me tell you! I’m soo tired!

    I definitely forgot that newborns are breastfed every two hours, for some reason I thought there was a bigger gap in between feedings. But nope, the first three weeks it was every 2-3 hours. This week I let her night feedings have 4 hours break. Which is funny because, it doesn’t matter what I have “decided,” my daughter gets up every two and a half hours to eat. Yes, I should be sleeping when she sleeps. But,… I don’t. Well, I kind of do. See, I do this thing where when she falls asleep, I randomly fall asleep and don’t know that I’m asleep. 😐 I know, horrible. 

    This week has been the best sleep week over all, and I could make a whole blog post about sleep, so, Im just going to stop. LOL This week I have started to feel more like myself. I have started to force myself to get back on track, You know, go outside, take a shower and I even did a 10 minute workout on youtube. #winning

    Okay, now that I have got all of that out, lol.

    Even as I barely hold my eyes open at 3 am to feed my daughter or as I fall asleep putting my son to bed, my heart smiles. As I watch my husband heart melt as he holds our daughter, I feel whole. This hasn’t been the prettiest month (its been hard as hell) but I’m starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Its all worth it.

    One of my favorite parts about postpartum with my second child is the fact that I didn’t lose myself. The first pregnancy it was like I didn’t know who I was as a mom. But this time I was more prepared and was able to hold on to my favorite parts of myself while growing into the juggle of having two kids.

    Also rebalancing a marriage with two kids can be tricky. Communication definitely comes into play when your walking around like a zombie. Thank goodness my husband and I are on the same page of just trying to figure out this new balance of life. He buys me chocolate and lets me get a few hours of sleep after my daughters  morning feed, which goes a long way. Happy wife, happy life. Well in this case,… rested wife, happy life. 😉

    This road of being a mom of two is a juggling act, but I choose to juggle the heck out of it!

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    The journey to success will always and forever be the best part, so enjoy the road your on and never give up on yourself!

    XO SHANTAL

    I hope that sharing my experiences and sharing your experiences that we both grow to reach our full potential!

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